Run from your stress. That’s my advice…

July 25, 2010 by  
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It is not your fault.

The stress might have turned you into an addict.

What is stressing you out?
Can you even imagine it not being there?

OK, stress hurts, maims, causes illness, pain and might even kill you.

Listen now, let me explain.

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We all know it.

Addicted To Stress?

Yes, you can be addicted to stress, or almost anything else. Even if it is not a substance you can get addicted. Obviously things like gambling, work, adrenaline sports, anger and much more can all create chemical states in the body that flood the cells.

And when that happens, the receptor sites on the cells change to adapt to the environment.
When the receptor cells change (these are known NOW as the brain of the cell) it requires MORE of whatever it was getting that made the receptor sites change.
Make sense?

Now, stress, for instance, comes in many varieties. There is good stress and bad stress. Your receptors don’t care much, they just comply, and adapt.

Good stress- work projects, auditions, new business ventures, deadlines, learning something new, moving to a new place, going on a new date, and so on.
Bad stress- Pain, anger, divorce, losing jobs, losing friends, guilt, shame and so on and so on. And on and on. Ugh.

But what happens if you get kinda happy, relax, chill it out for a while? The stress chemicals are not being produced. That sure seems like a great thing.
However, your receptors say “hey, we need a fix” and you do something to increase your stress levels again.

A few years ago, I realized I was addicted to stress. Mostly the good kind.

How did I change it? Find out now (thank goodness I did)

Listen as I explain here-

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Now, you have a choice. You can keep doing the same thing or use the instructions in that audio session to mix it up a bit.

If you decide you want to Wake Up Happy and feel unexplainably happy AND you want to start feeding your receptor sites happy happy joy joy, I can help.

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Big thunder this afternoon.
I kind of like it. It shakes me up
and makes me feel humble. And it
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Wendi Friesen Ho’oponopono is still a favorite of mine.
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Remember, I love you,
SignedWendi Friesen

Forget about it already

January 15, 2010 by  
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If you are tormented by your past, you will want to read this.
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Why can’t you just forget about it?
(and be sure to check out the amazing deal at the bottom  of this)
Can you really put the past
behind you? 

On the show this week we talked about how to put the negative memories, events and other various emotionally devastating traumas in the past.

The show was on addiction, but the method of putting the past behind us is something everyone needs. Let’s face it, we are all struggling with things we did in the past. Or maybe we are fighting the memories of things that were done to us.

Maybe your obsessive thought is just an image of something you saw that you simply cannot get out of your head.

People always ask me if I can make them just forget it, erase it, or eliminate it.

It might be possible, but probably won’t be permanent and will still have the emotional content of that memory. And that emotional content is what causes all the trouble.

The emotional content of the memory floods the body with a release of chemicals, even years later. The chemicals continue to be released, but even worse, this affects how your cells reproduce.

What do do? How to change it?

Trying to use hypnosis to block the memory does not stop the chemical release of the emotional memory, so a better way to handle it, would be to change the content of the memory.

When you activate the feelings associated with the memory, and then look at it in a different way, you can change the emotional content.
For instance, if you had an embarrassing event years ago, you can look into that memory and ask your very wise inner self to find the positive lesson or the thing that you have decided as a result of this experience.

When you bring the positive lesson into the memory and put in the new emotions that go along with that new powerful belief, the memory no longer sends the chemicals of fear or sadness or guilt or anger into your body.

Make sense so far?

Anything that triggers the old memory is now met with a new response. The old memory didn’t go away, but the reaction has changed. If this process is done well there should be an entirely new feeling ( something like a "yippee I feel so dang good now" sort of reaction)  that results from the old memory being triggered.

And this is why even hard core addicts and alcoholics have totally eliminated their cravings.

You still with me?

Now- think about this.
You have 100s or 1000s or bazillions of these old memories running amok in your brain. They are not all causing havoc, but there are a few key ones that are totally helping you feel depressed, afraid, filled with anxiety, turning to drugs and alcohol and diving deep into hopelessness and despair.

Here’s the solution.
This is why people have miraculous healing.

The very real result of these crappy memories is how this affects our health. (not to mention your worthiness)
When you are depressed your immunity is compromised.
When you are angry your emotions cause damaging stress.
When you are stressed your body cannot fight off viruses, bacteria, cancer and disease.

Let’s change it.
It is really not as hard as it sounds.
When you watch the shows from this week, you will understand more. (links to shows below)
But if you want the fast track to obliterate the bad joo joo, I’ve got your back.

The holy trinity of healing the past.

Resolving the Past
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How much will it cost to fix it all up?
Not much. These three hypnotherapy sessions are some of the most powerful work I have done for my clients over the years.
These are the result of 1000s of sessions with clients who have serious difficulty with depression and health issues.
I believe that NOTHING is more POWERFUL than the experience you will have when you resolve the past.

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If you want to stop your addictive cravings, bad habits, and fears of never getting clean and sober, you have to watch this.

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If you decide to do my program for RELEASING THE PAST, consider using a journey to write down the feelings, thoughts and new beliefs that emerge as a result. Writing in a journal has amazing power and doing it right after each session can totally help your brain transform the pain of your past.

Remember, I love you,
Wendi Friesen

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On Wednesday I was in the audience at the Conan O’Brien show.
I really like Conan and will be sad to see him go. He’s a funny guy.  His life long dream of being the host of the tonight show got yanked out from under him.
At least he still has his fame and money. Phew. What a relief, huh?
(I was so worried for him)

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Did my show shake you up?

January 6, 2010 by  
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The Wendi.TV show is so bloated and full, it should be put on a diet!
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Wow, what a great 3 days of getting things squared away for resolutions. One of my readers got mad at me  that I said your resolutions are doomed. But it is true. And you need to know why I said that. I seriously believe that the last three days of my show might be the most powerful and mind altering education you can get if you want to stop a bad habit, addiction, behavior or change your personality.  And you can watch them all now. No charge, of course.

Part 1 – Why your resolutions WILL fail
Part 2 – Rewiring your brain and people really do change (even you)
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Did you hear the show today? It will shake you up.
I love you guys!

One of you asked me ~~~~~
Wendi, how can I believe that change is possible when I am feeling hopeless?
And what about the old emotions and past failures that stop me from trying again?

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Remember, I love you,
Wendi Friesen

PS- I have a list of programs that are all about ending your bad habits and addictions and I gave out a 50% off link during the live show.

I think there are a few of you who might also be ready to stop the bad habits, bt you could not make the show.
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Thank goodness the holidays are over. As special as it can be, I always feel a sigh of relief when I can put away all that tacky xmas stuff. :)  

I think that for most people, the thought of new years resolutions are met with a feeling similar to hitting yourself in the head with a hammer. Seriously- another diet? Another attempt at working out every day?

Step away from
the hammer.

Two of my members gave me brilliant ideas for sessions. Just brilliant.
If you want to make a suggestion for a topic just email it to me by replying to this email. If I like it, I will make it! You guys are really inspiring and the thing I love the MOST about what I do is being in close contact with you.

Be sure to read the PS at the bottom. I have a cool secret offer for you.
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HypnoHoliday super sale

December 16, 2009 by  
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Consider Your Shopping DONE! I got you covered. And with gifts for you!
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There is a way to make a change in those you love the most
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Ho’Oponopono CD.

It might be the most healing, nourishing, love filled gift you can give.

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Remember, I love you,
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I love having this sale. I guess it is because when I try to pick out Christmas gifts I find things I like and I want to keep them! So I figure this has you covered.

I am really excited about the boat parade that starts tonight. Yippee. 1.5 million people will descend onto the harbor… MY harbor, to watch. Wow.

Remember to let me know how you liked the Piehole Hypnosis sessions! Put your comments here on the blog. So far people seem to like my Whacky hypno recordings. Cheap too, only $9.
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Hey, did you see the NEW Inspired Intuition program? Someone might like to get that in their stocking!
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I think I am going to work on a super special hypno gift for everyone and send it out on the 25th. Watch your email for it. I will make something that get you thinking!

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May 4, 2009 by  
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Part 4. To read parts 1-3, scroll down.

I Dreamed a dream

He is back out on the street making his own choices. An opiate addict has many episodes where they make some really hard choices. But the moment they decide to use again, the choice instantly gets easy. They make a choice to go back to Oxy or heroin knowing they are also choosing fear, guilt, shame, failure and risking jail and anger and disappointment from their family. Apparently, opiates have the power to help make the one choice that outweighs the combination of all the bad things that will happen as a result of doing the drug. For those of us who are not addicts, it makes no sense. Why would anyone choose to give up everything- your home, family, love, support, safety, food, money, warm bed at night. And the drug is so powerful that you willingly trade in all of those for fear, homelessness, jail, having no bed, clothes or shower, pain, hunger… and no one who will lift a finger to help out. I don’t get it. I understand it, I just don’t get it. Some of you know exactly what I am talking about. It has been 4 days since he has been gone. Someone called and said they saw him at Taco Bell and that he looked really burnt. He finally called me yesterday and he can’t come home because he is using. He has only been out of jail for 2 weeks. Faced with your own ability to decide how your life is going to go, the temptation for opiate users is overwhelming when they are left to their own choices. I had a dream last night- one of those that goes on forever. In my dream Sean had died of an overdose and I had to decide if I wanted to see him one last time. The dream was torture. Opiates- vicodin, oxycontin, heroin, norco. They remove your ability to weigh consequences. You simply don’t have the ability any longer to connect action with consequences. This is ONE reason they are so devastatingly powerful. Opiates remove the ability of the brain to feel happiness. The addict cannot feel normal happiness like you and I when they see a sunset, or a puppy, or a baby or simply share a few laughs with friends. Their brain has changed to such a degree that they can only feel happiness when they are using. The brain takes about 1 full year to bring back the happiness function. That has got to be one long ass year. Our high school kids are doing opiates more than all other illegal drugs combined! They are partying with vicodin, just getting that awesome high for the day… and from there it is a just a matter of time. Soon their brain will change to accommodate the drug and will need more of it. Soon, just to feel normal feelings, they will need the drug every day. Soon, they will increase the dosage to get the same normal feelings. And soon, the pain of withdrawal will be so bad that it is impossible to quit without enduring extreme physical pain for over a week. And later, a mother will be picking her son or daughter up from jail wondering what the hell to do next. And the mothers will not be alone. But they will feel very alone sometimes, giving up everything to try and find the answer and find something that will just make it stop. Rush Limbaugh used opiates and chose to lose his hearing as he increased to massive doses of oxycontin to feed his addiction. Many powerful, smart and successful people have lost everything multiple times because of opiates. If you think you are not affected, think again. The jails are already overcrowded as 80% of the people in there are serving time for drug related crimes. The teens who are just getting into opiates are going to create an even bigger wave of addicts that will push the courts and correctional system way beyond what it is now. The crime supports their habits and everyone is affected. And it will take money to try to control it. More police, courts, jail, rehab. Lots of money that our already strapped state budgets just don’t have. And families will spend money on rehab that has a 5% success rate in hopes of saving a life. They will mortgage their houses, use up their savings or go in debt charging their credit cards trying desperately to find help for their child. I am so very grateful for all your comments and replies. Your thoughts really do help and I want you to know that feeling the love and support in your responses means everything to me right now. Love right back at you! img_0177

When you say you love me…

April 25, 2009 by  
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(scroll down to read part 1 and part 2)
An Addict’s Mom  – Part 3

Bumps in the road.

There are good days.  And days that could be better. I know I need to stay positive and focus on what is good. I often default to “It is what it is” and hope that it is true that everything changes. And everything changes. Not just for me, but for everyone. For everything. Everywhere. Everything changes. Remember that… you might need to use it some day. With a few good days under our belt my son and I enjoy his freedom, I enjoy jail stories, learn new lingo, and with his wit and candor I am amused at how he shares his experiences. And in the midst of the lightness and simplicity of just being together, reality stabs me to say “you are talking to your beloved first born about his time in jail” and I know this is not how it is supposed to be. The other parents don’t talk about jail toilets and cellies with their kids, do they? No one knows what it really feels like when parents tell me about the accomplishments of their beautiful, talented children who are at the university becoming something frikken fantastic. Listen, I am happy for you. I am proud of your kid, proud of how well it worked out for you. I’m  dying inside, ok? Back at home I wonder how I will be able to hold it all together and figure out how to be the right kind of mom. If you think babies didn’t come with an instruction manual… try having a 25 year old addict coming home from jail. There is definitely no manual for this. I know I am not alone, and I know others have their pain and God knows that I don’t get a badge of courage for this one. I deserve one. But I know I’m not getting one. For so long I didn’t tell anyone the real story about my son’s addiction, his trouble with the law, or my anguish. Nobody wants to hear it anyway. And I when exactly would I reveal this interesting accomplishment? Right after I hear about the nuclear physicist their son has become, when they ask, “and how is Sean?” Under my breath I say to myself  “My son? Well he’s in jail again, because he is an opiate addict who has been to numerous rehabs. Oh, and did I tell you I have spent over $100,000 on rehabs that are a horribly inadequate and antiquated way to treat addicts…  just to try to help him get clean?” No, I haven’t shared the accomplishments of my son. Usually I artfully change the subject. And I try to keep from dying just a little more. The truth is that so many families are struggling with me, unable to share the horrors of how addiction has torn their family apart in ways they never dreamed when they held their babies in their arms and looked into those beautiful clear eyes.  Those parents who speak up are brave and powerful, and those who are willing to tell the truth about the pain of addiction are like a hand that reaches out of the darkness. I’ll grab that hand. Today is a good day. After a few bumps in the road this week, today is a big breath of air. Is it OK if sometimes I have to hold that breath just a little? Last night was hard. Very hard. And when life gets hard there is often a breakthrough in the making. Sean has hard decisions to make about drugs and the tests that he is going to go through. No one can do it for him. I am so very grateful for my friend Bruce Muzik who stayed up with Sean until 3 am, willing to work things through and really hear him. I learned so much. And watching them work through Sean’s fear together, I really felt the depth of my love for my son. Today Sean is bright, shiny and lifted up. He has shifted. One step in a long journey, and it is a step. img_0497 Before he left to go to my office, he turned back around and gave me a long hug. He says he loves me. I believe him. When you say you love me… The world goes still, so still inside. When you say you you love me In that moment I know why I’m alive. And this journey that were on how far we’ve come I celebrate every moment And when you say you love me That’s all you have to say When you say you love me, do you know how I love you? (from Josh Groban’s When you say you love me)

The Wind

April 18, 2009 by  
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(Scroll down to read part 1) Part 2 – An Addict’s mom

The Wind

Last year when my son was in jail, and I used to sit on the beach and stare at the waves and wonder how it happened. How did I do this? How did he do this? How did I fail him? “I listen to the wind of my soul…” The Wind Cat Stevens played in my headphones, and the words to THE WIND would take me to the depth of my soul’s longing to go back and make it different. I loved him. How could drugs take my son away from me and shred his life. “I swam upon the devil’s lake…” The words float through my head as I stare at the ocean and try to imagine how it must feel to be trapped in your own body with all the guilt, blame, anger tormenting you every minute. And then I try to imagine how he must think about having his life back. He hurts. And the drugs take away the hurt. The devil’s lake. Last year I thought it was over and that this would be the new beginning that we hoped for. After I picked him up, his commitment was solid. He knew he was not like them… the inmates who kept coming back to jail over and over, unable to ever make good of their life. He was different. He is different.
He is not like them, the degenerates, the poverty stricken, the homeless, uneducated criminals who have no regard for others. Please tell me he is not one of them. Last year I hated myself every time I had to stand in a line to get visitation privileges so I could talk through a glass window with a phone that has a 12 inch cord. Do you know why it has only a 12 inch cord? So you won’t strangle yourself! I knew that this image of my son, my baby, now at 6’4” starting at me through glass would be the image that would haunt me the rest of my life. I hate him for it. I hate myself for letting it happen. There must have been something I could have done. I hate myself for hating myself. That last sentence makes me cry. “I listen to my words, but they fall far below…” Things didn’t go well after Sean got out. More rehab, more sober living houses and watching him surrounded by a lot of addicts who all have a hair trigger. Chin up girl, you can do this! (but really that feel more like a ?) 
Yes, I will be the wind beneath his wings. After all, I am the great and powerful Wendi. I can help people to do anything, to make their life be like WOW. But wow, this is different in a million ways. And here just an arm’s length away, all the hugs and kisses and love can’t heal what is so badly broken. I hate this drug culture. I feel bad for using the word hate so much. I don’t think that we should hate anything, it is not healthy. I am scared to look in the deep, dark scary place in my soul where that hate lives. I am scared. Gotta shore up the dam a bit. A year later and I have to do this again. I have to go shove my ID into that little slot, take shit from a condescending, indifferent woman who will coldly tell me where to go. I am not one of them! But she, and everyone in the jail will treat me like on of them. I am falling apart in ways I don’t really find very attractive. I hope the dam doesn’t break. I have worked really hard to make it sturdy. Hold tight. Chin up, chest out.

My Son

April 17, 2009 by  
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An Addict’s Mom – Part 1

My Son

Tomorrow I will go to the Eldorado county jail to pick up my son for the 2nd time. I am nervous. When I gave birth to my son, I made a lot of great choices that would create a foundation for a baby to grow up healthy and strong and bright. Everything was in place- I read all the books on how to give him the best of everything… I made sure he had the best foods, the best childcare, involvement in school, great family connections, love and dedication… And after spending his 25th birthday in jail, I am on my way to pick him up. They will take away all my belongings and coldly tell me to walk down the hall and follow the blue line. img_0489 I will look at him through a tiny window at midnight. The guards will treat me with indifference. I will see his face across the room as we wait for them to process his papers. I will imagine what it will feel like for him to be hugged for the first time in months. I will cry, and be the most confused, sad, angry and scared that I have ever been in my life. After a lifetime of loving my child, this moment was never, ever in the plan.
Watch your head
It is not the first time. A year ago, I picked him up from Jail. My beautiful son- the tall, handsome, creative genius with an unbelievable ability to inspire others- is an addict. Just like most addicts, he started doing vicodin in school as a recreational way to get high. Vicodin is just the start and it changes the brain in such a way that you have to increase the dosage just to avoid withdrawals. As you work your way up to Oxycontin you become a horribly addicted opiate addict. The withdrawals are severe and intense. You increase your dosage to avoid the physcial pain and hate yourself more and more as you spend every hour of your day managing your addiction. And after getting high with vicodin because it feels good, your life is deeply and profoundly changed forever. In the last 4 years my life has been a constant struggle to try to figure out how to make him stop. I have sacrificed so much, we all have. As he battles with an addicted brain, and the pain and guilt of having hurt so many people, he reaches for anything that will numb his pain. Opiates robbed his brain of the  ability to feel good or just plain happy on it’s own. His brain depends on opiates to feel what we consider to be a natural state of happiness. He hurts. He openly tells me how horrible it is to steal to get money for oxy. He hates it and lives with his guilt every day. In jail the first time he, and all those drug addicts that surround him, sit and deal with the sentence that is greater than any judge could impose. The fear of how you will deal with reality without drugs. The guilt of knowing that you have hurt those that love you so deeply… and that it will probably happen again. Sean battles with his fragile state of going back to life without having any new tools, thoughts or direction to release his demons. Jail doesn’t provide much in the way of personal growth. When the phone rings and I see that same number on the caller ID I am excited to talk to him. I listen to the recording telling me that this is a call from an inmate at the Eldorado County correctional facility. I have that recorded voice stuck in my head. I love to hear his voice. He sounds so hopeful and so ready to make his life into something remarkable. How did this happen? I loved him, cared for him, read to him, hugged him, woke him up each morning with loving words, held his dreams in my heart, and tried and tried to do my best. He has been in jail for 3 months this time. Jail. Correctional facility. Correction, yea right. What is it correcting? My fear is that despite his overwhelming desire to never, ever go back to drug use,  it could happen. Families of addicts know that you hold on hard to your dream of having a happy, healthy child who has learned from the depths of hell, that it is time to live without drugs. And these families also know that your holding on for dear life. Literally. I am holding on-  to a thread of hope. Addiction makes you something you never thought you would be. And involves everyone and everything in your life. Tomorrow I will go pick up my son. I will hope, pray, and scream from the depths of my soul that this is the last time he and I share this special moment together. I am certain this will be the last time I see him in jail. I am certain this is the last time he will do drugs. And yea, I am scared.